iLive 4 Christ HomepageiLive 4 Christ

  • iLive 4 Christ HomepageiLive 4 Christ

  • Home
  • About
    • Featured Speakers
    • FAQ’s
    • Events
  • Contact Us
  • Resources
  • My Account
    • Terms and Conditions
  • Shop
    • Paint With A Purpose

Never Fear the Flipside is Here: Friends for a Time

July 20, 2017 by Mikayla Booze 1 Comment

So I told you last week that there was a flipside to the “true friends” message… well here it is – Summertime is the perfect time to make new friends!

I know, I know, that sounds completely opposite of what I said last week; what I mean is that it’s the perfect time to evaluate your current friends and consider the possibility that you may have “outgrown” each other.

Trust me, I know from experience, this is the hardest thing to do. Realizing that you aren’t into the same things as your best friend anymore.

But this is the most important part – realizing it.

If you don’t evaluate this you are robbing yourself and your friends of honesty and of peace.

If you don’t really know what I mean by this let me lay out some “symptoms” of an outgrown friendship:

1. You feel like you had better hang out sometime soon because it’s been awhile. However, you don’t really want to but feel like you should.

2. You find yourself being surprised by things your friend is doing, saying, or interested in. They are not acting like the person you used to know.

3. When you want to hang out and have a fun day with someone you either (a) think of this friend first to call and then think “naah it wouldn’t actually be as fun as I would hope” or (b) don’t even consider them until after you have made the plans with another friend.

Even if they aren’t doing anything drastic or morally different; if its just that your interests have changed, that is a sound reason to consider change as well.

Trust me it’s okay to have friends that pass out of your life.

My mom has always told me that we have different friends for different times in our lives.

I think that is one of the truest things I have ever heard and experienced in my own life.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s not easy – but it is worth it. Especially if these current friends are going down a path that you do not want to follow.

This is the most important thing to remember: Just because you have been loyal friends for X amount of time does not mean that your loyalty should stretch into compromising your morals.

What I mean by that is that if your friend is changing the things they are doing and the people they are hanging with – you don’t have to follow them and change your ways as well.

This is where your road splits and that’s okay.

This summer is the perfect time to hang out in different circles of friends and find where you fit in and the people you enjoy spending time with – as well as who likes the things you like.

So take some time, be brave, and make a change that is difficult but so very important and, in the end, peaceful.

~ Mikayla ✿

A little inspiration for your change

We can all use inspiration and relaxation at the same time so here are some of my favorite quotes in the form of printable coloring pages!

  1. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent – Eleanor Roosevelt 
  2. Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you – Dr. Seuss
  3. Why fit in when you were born to stand out – Dr. Seuss
  4. It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are – E. E. Cummings

 

Check back here again next Thursday to read my third and final post for this month as I talk about the truest friendship of all! Then, as we dive into August, we will hear from our next team member, Caitlin!

~~ Comment or email on this post if you have questions, just need a listening ear, or advice on your friendships~~

 

Filed Under: July 2017 Tagged With: change, friends, summer

Summer Time – Funner Time: Tips for a Great Summer with Friends, Fun, and Food

July 13, 2017 by Mikayla Booze Leave a Comment

Fun!

1.  Create beautiful, fun bubble art!

2. Giant “water bed “ in your yard! More like a giant water balloon that you walk and lay on, but super fun!

3. And of course you can’t go through summer without building a blanket fort and watching Netflix inside

 

Food!

1. Watermelon Pizza. This looks absolutely amazing and delicious

2. Raspberry Lemonade Slushy. Healthy, easy, and so tasty

3. Nutella Cool Whip Popsicle. Because Nutella makes everything ten times better

 

Friends!

Yay its summer time! You’re free! Beach here we come!

Now all you need is a cute bathing suit, sweet music, awesome friends and you have the perfect summer beach day!

Awesome friends make any trip, anywhere ten times better. But have you ever planned a day with what you thought were awesome friends and then halfway through the day you’re thinking, “Who are these people and why did I think they were awesome?”

Now might be a good time to evaluate your friends – or so called “friends”

I say so called “friends” because there are always those people in your life that you call your friends but…are they really your friends? You know what I mean, you say you and so-and-so are friends but you don’t really know them well.

Word of warning: Be careful of these people

Here are 3 reasons to be careful of “friends” in your life

1. You don’t really know them – they may be a good person at school when you see them but you don’t know what they do or how they act outside of school. If you’re like me you will find yourself not wanting to disappoint these people and go along with something stupid or hurtful to others, or even just plain boring.

2. They aren’t your true friends so while you are spending time together and thinking you might have a new shopping buddy, don’t let yourself get carried away and think that they will keep your secrets and have your back.

3. While you are making time for these “friends” you are neglecting your oldest and truest friends

Now that I have thoroughly discouraged you and your summer fun let me say that there is a flipside to this! Summer is a time to make new friends and let go of the ones that aren’t the best BFF match for you anymore.

I will talk about this flipside in my next post so make sure to check it out next Thursday!

~ Mikayla ✿

 

~ ~ I would love for you to comment with some of your favorite summer activities and tasty treats!

Also, comment or email us with any questions! ~ ~

 

 

 

Filed Under: July 2017 Tagged With: friends, summer, true friends

Give us a call to learn more

443-223-9146

© 2019 iLive 4 Christ, LLC

Connect